‘Our Aim Is To Make Nigerians Lead More Productive Lives’

Abisola Longe is a seasoned facilitator and mentor highly skilled in coaching, business consulting, career planning and counselling.

 As the chief executive at Human Capacity Development Consultants (HCDC), a firm committed to the goal of developing human capital in organisations for exceptional business results, she drives the Productivity Plus Planner initiative conceived in 2011 to help people live productive lives. She speaks on the planner and sundry issues.

Glassy Touch

THE use of glass blocks as building materials has been in practice for decades. Glass blocks are favoured especially where translucence and durability are important. They are attractive and add a classy touch to architectural designs or buildings.


These blocks are used both in the interior and exterior of buildings, and can offer great design opportunities. They have luxurious look that blend with many architectural styles – whether for building new homes or remodelling projects.

Facelift With Painting

PAINTING is a fast way to improve the look of a home. Applying a fresh coat of paint will instantly transform the building or living space from dull to exciting one. Apart from its aesthetic value, painting is a form of protection for walls.

However, painting on the exterior walls of houses is subject to wetting from rain and dew. It is not out of place to see outside walls shedding the paint that was applied not in the distant past or experiencing discoloration.

Fabrics Of Taste, Comfort

CONSIDERATIONS of beauty and comfort come into play when selecting a piece of sofa or chair. For upholstery furniture, the fabric is important in making a choice.

Choice of colours, patterns and textures of upholstery fabrics is a matter of expression of taste. The choice is virtually unlimited. However, lifestyle and budget should come into play.

Window Care

CLEAN windows contribute to give a home a relaxing air. Glass windows, oftentimes may not look clean even when they have been cleaned obviously because the right method has not been employed. Here are some tips provided by home improvement managers.

Windows should not be washed while the sun is shining on them because they dry quickly and leave streaks.
When polishing windows, use up and down strokes on one side of the window and side-to-side strokes on the other to tell which side requites extra polishing.

From Architecture To Photography, Adekanye Lives His Dream

OLUSEGUN A. Adekanye, currently a professional wedding and portrait photographer, was born in Kaduna. He was raised in Kano and Lagos, but frequented his ancestral home in Offa, Kwara State until his departure from the country when he was 19.


Now 40 years old he has spent most of his adult life pursuing his passion where ever. His Architecture degree which he started in Minna, Niger State, at the Federal University of Technology, Minna, was completed at the University of Greenwich in London UK; due to the countrywide instability with Nigerian university lecturers early 1994.

Tools To Building Self Confidence

Building Self Confidence is all about fixing your belief system by getting rid of the limiting beliefs you have and replacing them with ones that allow you to reach your full potential.

Return Of Babariga Move Over ‘Resource Control,’ The Flowing Robe Is Back With A Bang

FASHION is ever changing and evolving. It doesn’t stay static and so, what is “hot” and “in” this month, may suddenly become old-fashioned the very next month.


And this major change is expected in the nation’s fashion ethos, with the return of President Muhammadu Buhari.

The fashion wears of Nigerian presidents and first ladies, have always inspired major fashion choices among Nigerians. This influence has been happening over time but this trend has been strongly noted with the outgoing president, Goodluck Jonathan.

Building A Successful Event Career Just Got Easier

EVERY event business that is a success today has years of hard work at the crux. You don’t start a successful event business, you only achieve success with time as you keep at it because no business becomes a success overnight. How long it takes you to succeed however, depends on a number of factors. But if you must succeed at all in the event industry, then you should adopt these tips and practice them religiously.


Gatecrash: Go everywhere. Attend every event. Even when not invited? YES. You can’t possibly build a successful event business if you are not exposed to all kinds of events. Be it corporate event, social event, or even trade shows, just keep attending as many as you can. Doing that helps you learn the nitty-gritty of these events as well as build networks which is just as important as your ability.

The most common furniture stains will make you want to spew

ou might want to get up from the couch. Those mysterious stains on the sofa have just been named.
The number one most common furniture stain isn't at all surprising; we've all had a drunken mate fall asleep and piss themselves on our sofa, right?


Right? It's just surprising that slobber isn't the cause of the second most common stain. No, but it is another bodily fluid that, like urine, can often arise as a result of too much to drink.

When Smart Women Become Foolish

I AM sure you daily meet very smart women. Some women are naturally gifted that everyone in the society respects them.

 There are girls who claim to be so vast in life and who have seen so much that they now believe nothing can trap them down. These are the kind of women with great followership from their fellow women. It is not just their fellow women honouring them for their wisdom, men also fall for them.


Some of these women use their wisdom and knowledge the right way, but a good number of them make use of their wisdom the foolish way. The most painful part of this is that these ladies believe they are smart and streetwise when in the actual sense of it; they are the most foolish set of people on earth. I am sure men dread these set of women and for you not to ruin your relationship with the man you love, you have to be careful and know when to run away from these women. You must grow up to know when to stop going to them for advice.

The Controversy About Woman (II)

CONTINUING again on the Controversy about Women, today I would like to deal with the image a woman creates for herself. Unfortunately, one of the ways a woman’s image is formed is from her romantic relationships and her interests – most of which seems to be pushed on her by society. Unfortunately, a lot of women are exposed to it at so young an age when their personality is just coming into shape. How can a woman be true to herself without shutting the world out?

Friends With Your Ex? Good Or Bad Idea?

I KNOW what some of you are thinking, you are thinking “there is nothing wrong with being friends with your ex,” or your thinking “well they should be cool with it because the ex was there before them,” or finally you’re thinking “I know plenty of people who are good friends with their ex!”


Well before you go there I want you to think about this first. I am sure all of us are old enough to have had an ex before so do me a favor and think about how long it truly took you to be over that ex. Now think about how many times you and that ex were broken up, but both of you played that in and out, love/hate, emotional roller-coaster game.

Building Your Relationship

Some ladies would think it’s not possible to build a relationship without dating a man. I tell you today that its 100% possible. So how do you build a relationship when you’re not dating him? The answer: With the help of technology, of course! The mobile phone.


You need to learn about how to make men actually want to call you more and how to make him miss you over the phone so much that he can’t help but ask you out more often.




Think about all the relationships you’ve had with men in the past. How many of them were improved with the phone calls you shared with each other? How many of them actually got worse when you talked over the phone?

Why He May Marry A Foreigner

A FRIEND and I were enjoying a ride with her male friend, one who has travelled and seen the world. He told stories of the cultures he had observed. After a pause, he declared that; “May be a man should go to Ghana to marry a wife.”


It was not a question, it was a statement and I thought that he had thought over that idea a great deal before he said it. We kept quiet; I knew that my friend had entertained something bigger than a casual friendship with him and it was possible, he knew that she expected him to pop the question.

Re- ‘How Long Do I Give Him Space And/Or Time To Think About Things?’

I know how you feel because I’ve been there. If he needs time, that’s all you can give him. You can’t really put number on the amount of days or months.

I know this doesn’t exactly help. Rushing back into things after he’s asked for time will only lead to another fall-out. It’s hard to wait for someone because you may end up getting hurt in the end.

Make Your Man Feel Loved With These Tips

1. Compliment Him One of the easiest things you can do to make your man feel adored is complimenting him. Men love compliments too, so if you think he’s looking hot in his new shirt, tell him. After all, who doesn’t like to be told that they look good, that they smell amazing or that they are smart and sexy?


2. Pick Up The Tab If you are with a man that always treats you to nice dinners, that takes you to the movies, on wonderful vacations and who does all kinds of nice #things for you, show him that you appreciate his efforts and pick up the tab every now and then. I’m sure he won’t mind since he will be glad to notice that you are willing to take care of him every once in a while too

Looking For Mr. Right

WHEN in the dating world, sure we all go through dry spells, but that should not be a reason to settle for someone who really does not meet your requirements just from fear of sitting home alone on another weekend.


Learning to stand up for yourself and what you believe in and the ability to convey your deepest desires of what you are looking for in a mate will keep you on track to finding that special someone who not only complements you, but also brings out the best in you.

Appreciating Your Partner

MOST people do not appreciate when you do things for them. They never acknowledge anything at all, even if you put your head or arm down for them. And it hurts more when it is someone you love that hurts you that bad.


Have you ever felt like no matter what you do for someone, they do not appreciate it? Have you ever felt under acknowledged by your partner or maybe you had a great relationship at one point, but things have sort of slid toward the dark side?

Have Men Lost The Art Of Chasing Women?

I SAW him approach from the opposite direction, a man I judged to be in his forties. He was neatly dressed in printed wax jumper. There was evidence of a successful man in his jaunty steps. I thought he was a businessman because he did not wear a suit as is common on that part of the Marina where corporate dressing appears to be the norm.




But business must have been particularly good that day because of the satisfied look on his face. The confident look suggested a man who lived by his own rules.

It must have been my unconsciously taking in all these about this stranger that made miss -until the entanglement; I did not see her at all. Therefore I could not say from which direction she materialized from. At this too, I was quite close to my ‘object of interest’, but surprisingly, I noticed that he was locked in an embrace with a woman at this time of fading dusk; it was late, around 7p.m when workers had almost deserted the area. I am sure he took advantage of the loneliness at this time.

‘Ladies, Beware Of This Kind Of Man’

Hi, I am Destiny and would want to use this medium to alert the young girls out there. My younger cousin who is 23years of age had a boyfriend whom we all know because she never hid it from the family, and they have been dating for over two years now.


Little did she know that this guy had a very bad plan for her. He invited her to a friend’s party and without her permission, he and his friends put drug in her drink because she does not take any type of drugs nor alcohol and wouldn’t have agreed to take it if given that opportunity.

‘How Do I Handle This Situation?’

I DON’T know if it is proper and okay. I am 26years of age, I have a man I have been dating for quite some time now, let’s say almost two years.


There is other guy also I would call him my best friend. I discovered, but not too sure, that I am falling in love with him. All of a sudden, I started getting so pissed when he doesn’t call me.


I feel so much insecure, I would say rather say I get so much jealous whenever I’m with him and he picks up call from other ladies, and even worst, when I see him talk to other girls. At times, it feels in me like we’re dating though.

RE-‘How Do I Handle This Situation?’

IT’S normal for you to have such feelings towards your friend, especially one of the opposite sexes. Most relationships/marriages have their foundations in friendship. Most times, friendship develops gradually into relationship, courtship and sometimes marriage; but I must add here that not all friendships move into relationships or end in marriage.

RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE TIPS FOR THE WEEK:

UNLIKE men, every woman has her own particular way of communicating, so trying to establish blanket interpretations of the female subtext is an exercise in futility.

 But what the hell. Let’s go for it, anyway. Many relationship missteps men make have to do with not knowing when to take a statement or question at face value, and when to dig around for a deeper meaning. Often, we’ll just go by the words themselves, because it usually seems easier. However, this can have disastrous long-term consequences.

21 Things Your Boyfriend Will Never Admit

Those boyfriends of us are darlings, but no angels. There are a few things that they keep hidden from us.

Here are the 21 things your boyfriend will never admit.

‘When You Date A Lady For The Wrong Reasons’

For personal reasons the name used here are not real. At university in final year, I lived in a flat. The flat below consisted of four girls, and they had a friend, Nikky, who would always came round. I visited their flat once while she was there, and we started talking. At this point, I thought she was pretty, but nothing else.


This happened again when she came round, and this time we exchanged numbers. We started talking more and more, and eventually we became very good friends, and would talk for hours and hours on end for a few months. She was such a genuine girl, very nice and pleasant to be around, and I started to ‘like’ her. We had this emotional connection that I have never experienced with anyone even to this day.

Top 10: Proven Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Solidify Your Friendship How satisfied you feel in your relationship has to do with how connected you feel to your partner. Research suggests that our ability to connect with others (our attachment style) is influenced by our childhood experiences.






According to Prior and Glasser (2006), 65% of children can be classified as having a secure attachment style, with the remaining 35% having an insecure attachment style.

As an adult, an insecure attachment style is associated with a slew of relationship troubles, including jealousy, obsession, and emotional highs and lows.

Indecision

 Good day

I AM a single guy (36 years) who has never double-dated in my life because I hate it.  I see that as a way of limiting one to commit wholeheartedly to one’s partner.  I like to be fully focused on a lady to shower all my love and affection on her only.

There is this lady I just met two months ago now.  I had shown it to her and let her know my mission for her: marriage.  And she has accepted my proposal.

 

How Your Relationships Impoverish You

“THE other day, I sent N40, 000 to my brother in the village,” boasted a woman who sells second-hand children’s clothes. Chimed in her companion with a mournful look, you could muster; “My sister is married, but she keeps asking me for money and I cannot refuse to give her. I gave her N150, 000 in December.


Before then, she complained about hardship so I gave her N200, 000. Suffice it to say that when our mother passed on, she and her husband did not come home.”